Friends... the family that you choose 🏡 + 🏦 + 👩🏻💻 + 📫 +👩🏻💻
Good day to you all and merry almost spring.....⛄️🔫
I love my friends. I'm grateful that I have friends. Many people do not have that blessing in their lives. So I am very grateful. As I have mentioned on here before, I have a snapchat group with my besties. I made the group a couple of years ago so that I would be able to chat with them all at once.... sending a message to one group rather than typing out the same sentence 5 different times....
Some of the women knew each other but some didn't and it has been so interesting to watch and see how all of the relationships between all of them have grown and now I can say that we are all besties 😁. And we all cannot wait for the day when we can all get together and celebrate friendship together! (It may have to be in Spain, I know Angelika, but I think we are all game my friend 😉💃🏻)
Ken and I were out for dinner the other night and had a wonderful conversation. We have lots of similarities him and I, but we also have ALOT of things that are not similar. That's another post for another time. One of the greatest things about have dissimilarities is that we have different perspectives and that can be such a great thing for personal growth. Our convo the other night shed light on some things about myself that I already knew but just shove under the rug most times. For instance, I told him how I really felt about something that was brought up on our bestie chat. And instead of him agreeing with me, he says "why would you think that?" And right away, I know that what I'm actually saying is not right, it's not truthful, it's a pattern. A defensive pattern, that I recognize but like to just smile at and and wave to as it comes and goes... Just smile and wave boys....just smile and wave.. 👋🏻
But from that conversation, I felt like I needed to apologize for the many times that I have been defensive, passive-agressive-like on our group chat, so I did. I can be vulnerable with these women. They all have seen my vulnerability many, many times.... Because I like the real and raw.... F bombs and all and I love it when they share that same gift with me. Because it IS a gift. For someone to lay out their heart and trust that you will not break it even further but instead, provide a soft, caring space of non-judgement? That is love man. And I'm no dummy, I handpicked these ladies to go through this life with 😉. We chose each other I guess I should say because it's their choice to stay or go. I must not be so bad cuz they stick around.... 👏🏻😁🤘🏻
And of course when I apologized to them, they all were kind and loving in their responses. I believe that it would be hard to get through this life without friends. Friends are family that you get to choose. And I have chosen some gooders. Adrienne Chase, Debbie Twomey, Christine Preus, Angie White and Angelika Stone, I love you alls ❤️
And when are we booking our trip to Spain?
I also want to mention another bestie that isn't on the snapchat group, but also knows some of these ladies too, Andrea!! Miss you lots girl, can't wait until you and Adrienne and I can get back to our normal wine drinking... instead of this zoom shit.