I have been having a good morning, which has involved copious amounts of coffee, good tunes 🎶, good conversations and reading inspiring #instagram posts. How is your morning? I hope you are having an amazing day here today, because it may be the last!!!! 🤷🏻♀️ just putting that out there....
Today, I thought a good topic to talk about is the feelings that come up for us when we want to post stuff for all of the universe to see....
There are so many reasons to post information. To teach, to vent, to connect, to show kindness, to get revenge, to cover up real life, to love, to receive attention. I don't want to admit it but I have posted stuff in the past for probably all of those reasons at one time or another. (The revenge one.. probably not so much).
As I was chatting with my bestie posse on snapchat today, we were talking about hair. Bangs, perms, thin hair, etc... I sent them a picture of my daughter, Shea, with curly hair and bangs to show them that curly hair and bangs CAN exist! And as I looked again at Shea's picture, I was taken aback by the beautiful picture she took of herself. The hair, the pose and the filter...(if she used one 🤷🏻♀️). And I also remembered what she wrote that day underneath the pictures she posted and how vulnerable and amazing they were. And I felt such a feeling of proudness (?) is that a word? Must be, it doesn't have a red line under it... lol.
In that moment I wanted to post it on my Instagram stories for all of the universe to see!!! And then there was a moment when that crusty brain 🧠 🍞 showed up and thought it needed to tell me to be ashamed of posting such things. I get, that when it shows up it just wants to keep me safe... It wants me to be safe from the people who may say "you are bragging again", "why does she always have to post about how great her daughter's are?", "her kids are not perfect", "she is so fake".... etc etc etc... 🙂🔫
But the better part of myself that is growing and emerging more than ever these days is starting to be louder 📣 than that crusty voice.... This voice says "You love your children so much and showing that love and releasing it out into the universe can NEVER be wrong", "One of the reasons you are here on this earth is to spread the love and show people exactly that", "You will change someone's day for the better if you post it" "Fuck the naysayers and the haters" (yes the voice swears quite often, I like it). "Do the things that bring YOU joy, if posting about your daughter's brings you joy, then do that".
I am grateful for the relationships that I have with my beautiful girls. I realize that this is not the case for everyone. I'm not posting about my love for my girls to make anyone else feel bad about their relationships with their girls. I am posting because it is beautiful. It is love. ❤️👩👧👧 And this world needs to see more of it. Again, if you read my posts about my girls and feel some kind of jealousy or anger, there is a chance in that moment to ask yourself why you feel those feelings, instead of just letting them run the show... and to maybe start healing something within yourself. I know that for me, I ask myself about my jealousy feelings too, (when I can be aware that I am feeling them) and usually at the end of exploring the feeling I realize that the only thing that matters is that I am choosing joy and kindness for myself in every moment. Gratitude for what I do have then sets in and neuron's in the crusty brain are changed... ⚡️
I for one, love seeing people's posts of their families. It makes me believe that this world does have people that are enjoying their lives, it makes me believe that love IS being shared, that love IS alive and that there are other people who are not afraid to POST THE LOVE! 🙌🏻💗. So know this people... when I see you posting loving and kind and positive stuff, I LOVE IT! and keep posting it! Post that shit like it's Covid news..... ALL DAY, EVERY DAY, ALL DAY LONG.... 🤣🤭
K. Gotta go brush my teeth. The crusty film on the teeth is real my friends... 🤘🏻😝🤘🏻